If you have managed to stumble across this post. Then theres a good chance you’re feeling unhappy.
Unhappiness will lead to you also feeling lonely and miserable as-well as generally feeling unsure of yourself.
I can hear a voice on the other side of this screen asking “what can i do?“ as “I see no light at the end of the tunnel”
Thats a great question! The answer lies on what is causing us to be unhappy in the first instance. For example the following below can all lead to unhappiness.
1.Strained relationship’s
2.Dysfunctional family
3.Weight gain
4.Jealousy
5.Resentments / Bitterness
Literally all of the above and so much more. Here are some general rules of thumb.
If it’s a strained relationship and constant bickering that’s making you miserable then you have got to ask yourself? What are you getting out of the relationship? When was the last time you smiled?
Nobody’s worth losing your own self over. Never accept the unacceptable. You deserve better and someone out there you probably already know would jump at the chance to do so!
Never enter into a relationship with someone based on their looks and sexual attraction alone. Remember that great personality and true character matters.
The reason i say this is pretty self explanatory. True personality always shines through ,as does character. Looks fade. People also age, they also change, friends can become strangers .
If your relationship is built on looks then thats a faulty foundation on which to build something that’s meant to last. What happens when the attraction fades ? and all of a sudden you are complete strangers with nothing in common. Sound familiar?
Never chase after love, true love doesn’t need chasing. Never beg after someone , you will probably gain attention but ultimately lose your self respect. Nobody is worth sacrificing your own mental health. Self care right ?
Sometimespeople and i mean anywhere from young teenage adolescents to grown adults , will mingle in company to try and blend in and feel liked. This is putting on a fake act.
Why try to keep up a fake act -persona that will eventually take its toll on you physically and mentally? How better would it feel to just be yourself and be accepted?
After all the right person or people will love you and like you for being yourself and that means being “real”. Its better to be in the minority than follow the crowd.
It is also important to realise that sometimesstrangerstruly are friends we just haven’t got round to knowing yet. One bad apple doesn’t mean the entire batch is rotten .
Never allow yourself to become dejected and give up on your dreams.
Set yourself realistic goals that are achievable. After all what may seem a minor accomplishment could mean the world to you. Nobody has the right to try devalue that.
My two sons have autism and non verbal so seeing them learn to use cutlery at 7 years of age and 9 years of age before they experienced a cinema had me in tears. So like i said everyone has different achievements and success stories.
Dysfunctional family is another thing that is high up the list for making people feel like they are the black sheep that is never welcome and the same family members have nothing good to say about you.
Even though it can cause considerable pain and heartache, sometimes it’s better to let go for your own wellbeing. “ you cant water a dead plant”. Sometimes we try too hard trying to build relationships that don’t even exist, and have zero chance of ever doing so.
Dont sit and wait on life passing you by. Get a weekly planner, think of things you used to enjoy , what's stoping you enjoying doing those things ? The things that make YOU HAPPY! First and foremost 😀. Your happiness comes first.
“Imagine with all your mind”
Believe with all your heart ❤️
“Achieve with all your might!”
I seen the above quote and liked it so much that i had it printed onto clothing. Everyone has something different that motivates them.
For example most people are motivated by money. Money doesn’t make me happy .
When my ex partner was swimming with dolphins 🐬 in the Dominican 🇩🇴 Republic? I was more than happy at home with my two dogs. I could have went but it didn’t interest me.
So like i says dont spent your days being unproductive. The next time your caught in a rainstorm wishing you were warm . Just think that rain is the last thing someone seen before they died.
Too often we waste our time and energy moaning about how hot or how cold it is, and at the same time people are gasping with their last breath wishing they could go back and experience such things.
sometimes the smallest things in life are the most beautiful and most memorable. ~Joe 19/10/24
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