Do you think your relationship or marriage is breaking down. If you find yourself reading this blog then you have clearly been doing some serious soul searching.
Two golden rules 1. If you don’t want to break up and love your partner then It really comes down to communication and respect. Be prepared to make sacrifices and compromise.
Rule 2. “ Never accept the Unacceptable” Nobody in the world is worth losing your dignity or self respect. Always stay true to your own worth & value.
If you feel your relationship is in trouble, be open talk to your partner. You will know in your heart if things are getting into too much of a routine, or stuck in a rut talk to your partner. If you think they've changed, talk to your them, make your feelings clear.
If you are truly meant to be together then you will both realise what is wrong in your relationship and will try to make it work. If you hear the dreaded “ I think we need a break”. Massive red flag!!
Do not entertain such disrespect as it basically = It is a cowardly way of more or less saying “I'm unhappy with you” and I want to see if I'm happy with other people! or by myself before deciding if you're worth it. True love simply doesn’t entertain such thoughts.
It's not fair on either party to hold them or their emotions hostage in limbo. In a relationship or marriage you are either all in or all out.
If your partner appears uninterested in making the necessary changes? Then don’t continue to wait for changes that simply will not arrive.
Stop tolerating people’s antics that hurt you. Instead ask yourself? What are you getting out of the relationship? Never devalue yourself by accepting minimal effort. You deserve more.
Sometimes, blind loyalty binds us to unsustainable situations. We cling on to the idea and hope that things will improve, but the reality is that it doesn't always happen that way, and in all probability wont .
True courage is in recognizing when it's time to let go and and having the strength to do so. I know first hand the “ thought of it can bring overwhelming and excruciating heartache”
Any relationship break up will hurt; perhaps none more so if there’s children involved or even pets. However it will be the trajectory that will lead you to heal.
The heartache & pain of a final farewell is inevitable, it is worth remembering that it is also the first step towards healing.
Only by removing ourselves from what hurts us, can we allow our wounds to heal. It is an act of self-care. Nothing is more important than your own mental health.
You probably now see that it is not possible to build a healthy relationship by their side. If anything staying in a relationship that offers you little happiness and your constantly put in more than what your getting out of it ? It’s time to move on.
This is essentially made to feel harder because your heart and mind are having a full blown debate between staying or leaving.
Sometimes it’s worth fighting for, if your being treated poorly then don’t accept what is unacceptable and remember you deserve better - self care ALWAYS!
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