Have you ever felt like you have spent an entire life time with friends, family, or even work colleagues that don’t have any idea of who you truly are as a person, as a human being ? That anything you say , no matter how honest and heart felt it may be ? Your thoughts and feelings are readily dismissed.
Almost frowned upon and “ whisper it” laughed at ? Then this blog is dedicated to you.
There is no worse feeling in the world than being the so called black sheep the “ oddball” that everyone avoids just because they are misunderstood.
The world can be an ignorant place .people , society in general do not want to take the time to listen and learn about invisible illnesses .
This feeling I know all too well. I am sure you do also , i am sorry if you were made to feel like a “ Misunderstood Invisible Stranger “
This is what has led to me writing about feeling isolated. Especially when so many people are suffering from misunderstood invisible illness.
Illnesses that leads to people never being invited to family gatherings ect through stigma and lack of knowledge.
We even now have an ugly trend with friends and relatives deleting you from social media because you spoke your mind and they didn’t agree so thats you thrown in the waste bin.
Deleted from cyber space and deleted in “real life” all for being real and honest.
What happened to actually phoning someone and talking things out or meeting up face to face and clearing the air , especially when it’s something thats been misunderstood and taken the wrong way.
The most awful feeling of loneliness is not actually being alone, the horror of loneliness stems from being misunderstood. I will keep on saying this as its 100% accurate and most importantly true.
It is the loneliness of standing in a crowded place , feeling claustrophobic and you feel like the air is slowly suffocating you
Why ? Because you are surrounded by people who never seem to see you, and neither hear you. Despite knowing you throughout childhood and adulthood.
It is the absolute heartbreaking realisation thst despite being surrounded by friends and family, or work colleagues you feel completely and utterly fucking invisible. Trying your best to fit in but inside, you are frozen in time and in a state of isolation that no words could ever describe.
You are literally a “Misunderstood invisible stranger” amongst family and friends. Nobody gets you as they aint willing to put in the effort of seeing the “real you “as they are too wrapped up in their own world that is called ignorance.
So much parts of you are hidden, and unrecognized, this is especially true when we bring the likes of Anxiety , Autism,Borderline Personality Disorder and PTSD into play and that’s just to name a few. Meanwhile people only acknowledge the version of you that fits into their narrative.
For many people who have now read this blog and may have learned something new, you may now experience whats called the ‘Baader-Meinhof’ effect this is a phenomenon where information we have learned recently then becomes a more common occurrence around us .
making it feel as though its more habitual than it actually is. This is due to an increase in our psyche and awareness. This makes people susceptible to the topics they are now educated on as they now have a deeper connection to the world around them.
Id like to add a small bit about nature and nurture , in childhood a traumatic event or experience can impact someone so bad that they take that into adulthood.
A lot of traits we own are a direct result of how our parents were raised as they carry on the cycle of ignorance. At some point someone has to break the cycle and spread awareness!
If you find yourself reading this then i want you to know that you are not the only invisible “ stranger “ and there are thousands of other invisible strangers out there .
Some of whom who are the best friends that you are haven’t met yet.
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